I have been thinking lately about the Mom I am and how much it differs from the Mom I WANT to be. Why is it so hard to change things? I seriously decide each night that tomorrow I won’t be impatient, short tempered, and will enjoy the moments with my kids more and somehow by the time I wake up and start a new day all of my resolve seems to crumble as soon as there is any kind of problem. I know it isn’t realistic to expect to be perfectly patient all the time, but I KNOW I need to be able to be that way a lot more often than I am. What are your secrets to keeping your cool when things get crazy with your kids? What kind of things do you do with your kids to help them be more kind with one another too? What makes YOU feel like you are being a “good” Mom? I need some new ideas so I hope some of you readers will help me out! Thanks!
Saturday, June 26, 2010
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When things get intense with my kids, I remember that they won't always be this young, impressionable age, and this keeps them alive. To keep my cool though, I try to remember that I have to spend a lot of my time working right now, and the time I have with them is so limited. That's when I end up saying yes to the bike rides, the stories to be read, the dances in the livingroom, etc., and it makes it less intense. I get off my can and it makes a difference.
This is so me. I want to be the mom in the Family Fun magazine that has all the great crafts and fun outings, but most the time I'm the mom that puts on the Disney movie just so she can get the laundry done.
I think you're on the right track: deciding every day that you'll be better. I'm sure it must help--think of how much worse it would be if you weren't trying! Sometimes, when I have presence of mind, I make myself go to my own room for a moment to calm down. I also read Alma 38:12 a lot, almost like it's my motto. And many, many days, I still mess up, but hope my apologies help smooth things over.
(Every night I pray that my kids will remember the good things of that day--no vain repetition, I assure you.)
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